Claims or Assumptions
I can buy my specialty lubes on Amazon.
Alphabet lubes (in their powder state) do not go bad.
Reality
Lubes purchased from Amazon or even some specialty sex shops may be knockoffs and mix poorly.
Powders have been known to degrade, especially when exposed to poor climate conditions.
Remediation
Purchase lubes, especially powders, directly from the vendor if possible. Once a lube is in your possession, use a sharpie to indicate your acquisition date and discard after three years. For additional information, see:
Claims or Assumption
It's unnecessary to inform the top about lube additives.
Reality
Your top may be allergic to certain ingredients or may have medical reasons for avoiding pharmaceutical additives. He may not be able to fist you when your lube puts his health at risk.
Remediation
Discuss any lube additives with your top before play. For additional information, see:
Claims or Assumptions
Additives, such as numbing agents, are beneficial.
Using my lube and its special additives on my partner will definitely open him up better!
Reality
While numbing agents may extend play, they can also mask damage and cause health issues. Certain additives, like Voltaren cream, can cause kidney damage.
Additionally, numbing additives prevent natural pain mechanisms from warning you of injury.
When a bottom's hole isn't familiar with special additives like clove, lavender, or numbing creams, exposure to these agents can cause the hole to induce expulsion reflexes or even close up completely.
Remediation
Familiarize yourself with overdose symptoms for lidocaine. Avoid the use of acetaminophen containing additives (such as Voltaren). Study the potential health consequences of any lubrication additive.
Recognize that unfamiliar lube can shut down a hole rather than open it, so plan 'lube experimentation' strategically. Avoid new lubes at events and parties to ensure you can bottom for the duration of the event.
For moderate and advanced fisters, using a familiar lube with the right viscosity, lubricity, and consistency enables them to focus on relaxation instead of new sensations triggered by lube. For additional information, see:
Claims or Assumptions
Injecting lube into the upper fist chute is the secret to faster development of depth capabilities.
Injecting large volumes of lube will make depth gains quicker.
Reality
There are no shortcuts for gaining depth. Excessive lube and deep lube injection are not replacements for regular conditioning. Sustained depth gains, especially those that occur near or beyond the elbow, require a lot of play over a long period of time (typically years).
Injecting lube into the upper fist chute gives false courage.
Remediation
Focus on regular and consistent play with a moderate amount of drag-eliminating lube rather than deep injections as a shortcut. Focus on regular massage of the second hole to trigger relaxation rather than excessive lube as its trigger. For additional information, see:
Claims or Assumption
I won't perforate if I use a lot of lube.
Reality
Perforations can happen at any time. While a well lubricated hole decreases perforation risk, it can provide false courage and encourage pressing limits—especially in inexperienced depth players.
Remediation
Do not use lube as a safeguard for perforation. Always discuss your hole's abilities with your top before play to prevent unnecessary risk taking. For additional information, see:
Claims or Assumptions
He's already got enough lube inside him, so I will hold back when he asks for more!
Reality
Novice, inexperienced, and over-confident tops are prone to making lube assessments for the bottom. There may be ten gallons of lube in the hole, but if the bottom says there isn't enough, re-apply. A request typically indicates the bottom is experiencing discomfort. Further investigation is needed after applying fresh lube.
Remediation
Often, a request for additional lube from a bottom indicates a deficiency in technique by the top. For additional information, see: