Mentoring (One-on-One)
Mentoring involves teaching new players about lube in a one-on-one or threesome environment. To prevent information overload, it is wise to introduce new information over several sessions. The following guidelines are based on three sessions; however, this can be subdivided into more sessions if desired.
First Session
If you are acting as a mentor to a new fister, cover the following during your first session:
- Lubrication Rationale | Briefly compare fisting lube with traditional lube, specifically:
- How lube sets and maintains the tone of a session.
- How insufficient lube deters from a session / Who determines insufficiency.
- How fisting lube varies from other traditional lubes.
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- Lubrication Etiquette | Cover the following points of etiquette:
- BYOL (and Don't Share)
- Apply Lube Frequently and Generously
- Clean up Your Bottom
- Respect Your Partner and Host
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- Lubrication Application | Teach the following application strategies:
- Initial Application
- Reapplication
- Rehydration
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- Lubrication Cleanup | Demonstrate how to clean up:
- The Bottom
- The Play Area
- The Hand / Arm
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Second Session
For your second session cover the following items:
- Lubrication Bases | Discuss the pros and cons of the two most common fisting lubes:
- PEO / Alphabet Lubes (FFäusten, J, K, X)
- Lipids (Crisco, Elbow Grease, Boy Butter)
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- Lubrication Distrubution Methods | Review different types of lube containers:
- Bottles / Bidons
- Buckets / Bowls
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- Lubrication Safety | Discuss harm reduction strategies related to lube:
- Shelf Life
- Lube Sharing
- Hygiene (hand washing, cross contamination)
- Lube provision
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- Lubrication Purchasing | Provide info about purchasing fisting lubes:
- Vendors
- Fair Pricing
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It is also helpful to review lubrication etiquette from the first session.
Third Session
In your third or subsequent sessions, cover the last of the basics:
- Lubrication Additives | Introduce additives and review pros and cons when used in lubes:
- Allergic reactions
- Masking injury
- Nefarious intentions
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- Lubrication Preparation | Go over making one's own lube:
- How to mix PEOs
- What tools make better outcomes
- How long does it take to thicken
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- Lubrication Application | Teach the following application strategies:
- Funneling
- Injection Tools
